Spirituality in Relationships

It might be said that the most complicated aspect of life as a human involves relationships.  When our relationships are great, they’re great, and when they’re not, they’re not.  The people we are in relationships with have the potential to be our greatest, most profound teachers, if only we have ears to hear and eyes to see.

I am reading A Return to Love (again) by Marianne Williamson.  For those of you who don’t know anything about Marianne, she is a spiritual teacher who is very knowledgeable about A Course in Miracles and its principles.  A Return to Love is what I would consider to be a handbook alternative to ACIM and is a great read for those who aren’t quite ready or don’t feel they have the time/energy to commit to ACIM.

Marianne has a beautiful, down to Earth, and relatable way of presenting the principles of ACIM.  She gives plenty of examples from her own life in how she has applied the various principles and prayers she has used in order to raise her vibration to miracle status.  There are lots of important nuggets of truth and wisdom in this book.

“When you meet anyone, remember it is a holy encounter.  As you see him, you will see yourself. As you treat him, you will treat yourself. As you think of him, you will think of yourself. Never forget this, for in him you will find yourself or lose yourself.”

My absolute favorite is the chapter on relationships.  In it, she describes three levels of teaching in relationships, which we can expect to experience in a lifetime.  The first level are casual acquaintances and people we meet providing a service (like the bank teller, or person checking us out at a store). The second level is a “more sustained relationship, in which, for a time, two people enter into a fairy intense teaching-learning situation and then appear to separate”.  Finally, the last level of teaching relationship is one in which once created, lasts “all our lives”.  At this level, “each person is given a chosen learning partner who presents him with unlimited opportunities for learning.

It can be helpful to have this information, as it makes a great point for contemplation.  Letting go of something that isn’t sustainable for one or both parties is easier when we realize there was a purpose to the union, the purpose has been served, and now it’s time to lovingly release the relationship.  Conversely, when we have a solid, cosmic relationship with someone and are aware it transcends this lifetime, it matters not whether we are together or not, because on a spiritual level, we can be aware that we are connected even beyond this lifetime and into always.

Knowing this (and other concepts ACIM imparts) can help us to come to resolution about closures in relationships, which can bring peace and happiness to the body, mind, and spirit.

“The fundamental change will occur with the change of mind in the thinker.”  Mind is the builder.  Anytime we feel dysregulated, we need to attune to the thoughts we are experiencing.  ACIM teaches that anything other than love is illusion.  So, if we’re having any thought that is unloving, we can rest assured it’s ego and not Spirit.  Marianne suggests prayer as a form of getting the mind “right”, so to speak.  She suggests that when we are having negative thoughts, we pray to the Holy Spirit to guide and shift our perceptions about the person and/or situation.

Also, “Forgiveness is the only sane response.”  In my line of work, I hear stories daily about the ways in which people feel they were “wronged” by others.  I am always amazed by the fervor with which people will hold on to past grievance.  What they don’t understand is that their own unwillingness or inability to forgive, keeps them tethered to the past, thinking about, and feeling all of the emotions that go with that picture or memory.  Eventually, anger will turn into bitterness, which serves to harden the heart chakra and lends itself to the creation of more negative feelings and thoughts, thus keeping someone in the wheel of karma, where they will continue to repeat the same patterns again and again, until they reach the point of consciousness where they can make a change, thereby stepping off the wheel.

We must forgive one another.  It’s the only way forward.  We must remember that only love is real.  We are each created in the image and likeness of Creator.  That is love.  Nothing else exists in reality.  Only in this delusional state we have created through the use of ego.

May you all find your way to your own inner Light &
Have a wonder-filled Thursday!


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